In Love

A lot of our members have requested some guidance on how to answer this question, because it's a question that a great many women struggle to answer with conviction.

Of course, there is no infallible litmus test. How boring life would be if there were! So this article is not intended to give you any sort of checklist that leads you to an easy answer. I'll leave such contrivances to the teenage magazines.

What I aim to do is provide you with some food-for-thought that will help you, if you are at all unsure, to make up your mind about what love means to you, and whether you are in love or not. And, even if you already know that you are in love, I'll try to provide some guidance and support if you want to make your love-life more meaningful and rewarding.

Quite possibly, love is one of the most over-used and abused words in the English language. In spite of the considerable efforts of our most accomplished poets and writers to capture the beauty of the word, its high currency is commonly devalued to the point of worthlessness. Here in England, for example, you can find yourself addressed as "Love" or "My love" by a shop assistant who has never before laid eyes upon you as you make a trivial purchase at a store.

Keep Calm

Running a business is a funny thing. One minute, you can be swamped with work and the next you're so quiet and you can't see where the next penny is coming from.

When you're desperate for new business, it's likely that you'll do tons and tons of marketing. You'll really get off your back side and get out there as much as possible to get new business through the door.

But, here's the thing. When you're desperate for new business, it almost has the opposite impact. It's almost as if your potential customers can sense this a mile off and don't want to work with you because you come across as needy.

And this seems to be true no matter how much of a brave face you put on. Let me give you an example of this. A few months ago I went to a networking event and for some reason, I just wasn't in the mood for it.

Love You

That love which was weary, hungry, tempted, scorned, scourged, buffeted, spat upon, crucified, pierced - which fasted, prayed, taught, healed, wept, sweated, bled, died. That love will eternally embrace you.' Richard Baxter, hymn writer, imprisoned preacher

Here is something better than a cool breeze on a scorching day, better than snowflakes at Christmas, better than your favourite friend, better than your birthday...

The King of Kings, Maker of Heaven and Earth, the Centre of everything, the Prince of Peace, the Saviour of the world, the Lion of Judah, the Son of God, the Ruler, our great High Priest, the Healer, the Author and Perfecter of our faith, the Light of the world, the Good Shepherd, the Deliverer, our Protector, the Way the Truth and the Life.

Adores, has the greatest affection for, is totally committed to, is faithful to, is always there for, believes in, trusts, sees the best in, will help and guide, gives everything He has for, is always thinking about, delights in, is devoted to, respects, enjoys, is passionate about.

Yes you, the unique combination that makes you who you are, your past, your present, your future, your hopes and dreams, your failures, your mistakes, your what ifs and might have beens, your courage, your kindness, your tears, your laughter, your good days and bad days, your strength, your weariness, your destiny. He loves you.

I Love

I invite you to walk this journey with me for a while. I have been on a journey most of my life searching for love, wanting to know and understand this love, and only recently found it in the most unexpected place. Through my journey I often asked other people about love. Many responses were given about what it meant according to their perception - companionship, security, someone to come home to, sexual intimacy, procreation, sharing space, good feelings, belonging, feeling of family - but it wasn't enough. I knew there was more to real love than was being revealed. So I kept searching. Perhaps you too are searching. You see, finding love is the innate desire of all beings on this planet.

Most people search for love in the physical realm. You know, that zap of "chemistry," candlelight dinners, warm fuzzy feelings, making love, being together and sharing it all. This is love in the physical realm. Although wonderful and exciting, it does not begin to comprehend the vastness of real love. We all know that physical love can change rather rapidly - our divorce statistics certainly equate this - for physical intimacy provides only short-term gratification with connection that lacks depth. So if physical connections - whether partner/partner, friend/friend or parent/child - do not provide the filled up, satisfying, overflowing love, well then, what does?

The search continued. First was a long marriage, but the love faded away until it was gone. There were five children - they kept me busy and fulfilled and happy for a while it seemed. I was too busy to look further so just accepted this was it, even though I longed to know more. Funny thing though, the kids grew up and moved onto their own path, leaving me behind. I tried one business after another, did well in all of them, but something was always missing. I was empty and my soul cried out for that love. My face told the story of my heart's condition, for what one is on the inside is mirrored to the outside for all to see. I kept looking.

I continued my journey and some revealing insights came to me. I looked at other people walking past me or even beside me, and saw the same emptiness in many of them. I was puzzled, but also relieved that I wasn't the only one searching. Most were doing what I was doing, hurrying here and there thus avoiding time to think about the emptiness, filling their lives with busyness. Sadly, the more I accomplished, the more accolades I received, the busier I became, the emptier I was. What a mystery. It surely wasn't turning out as I had been taught - get married, raise a family, take care of everyone's needs, work a job perhaps, go to church, live by the "Golden Rule," give and give, and you will know love.

Relationship Is Not Just Holding Hands

Although it has become almost extinct, holding hands is a timeless display of affection. Holding someone's hands is an outward expression of love, protection and commitment. This once popular public display is rarely seen in today's society. Holding hands used to have a wide appeal, couples from puppy love to their golden years; sent a message to onlookers that they are in love. When you hold someone's hands it is neither offensive nor suggestive when done in public. If given a rating it would be rated "G", good for everyone. Onlookers wouldn't suggest that the couple's behavior is inappropriate.

The question I would pose is "why aren't many couples holding hands in public anymore?" Has it gone out of style? Have many Americans gotten so distracted with the day to day routine they don't have time? Are we so extreme that it's become too innocent? Are couples no longer willing to declare they are committed? What is the reason more people don't hold hands? Couples kissing and touching each other inappropriately in public has increased. Hand holding has more than just romantic significance, such as; holding someone's hand to guide them through a crowd. Parents hold the hand of a small child do so for guidance and protection. Whatever the reason for hand holding, the sense of touch satisfies the human need for acceptance. Not to mention it's emotionally comforting for both parties.

A simple act as taking someone by the hand can help maintain passion in a marriage. In the beginning many couples hold hands. However, as time goes by they tend to lose some of the simple acts of affection. I think holding hands is emotionally helps bonds two people together and therefore will never be out of style. In my opinion, the silent message holding hands expresses, is I love you, I'm committed to you and I don't mind if others know this. It also says I'm attracted to you and I'm aware of your presence. If your marriage relationship has lost some of its flavor, I suggest you make it a point to hold hands on a regular basis. This might be just what is needed to rekindle the sparks in your marriage. The next time you are out with your spouse grab hold of his or her hand as you walk along. Holding hands alone is not the only remedy to romance, but it sure is a good place to start!.

To Love Someone Deeply

Do you have what it takes to make your man love you deeply? Do you want to be irresistible to your boyfriend? Do you want him to feel that you are the special one? Do you want him to be committed to you and be with you forever? If you want your man to shower genuine unconditional love on you, you've got to be irresistible to him. Here are certain extremely powerful tactics to be irresistible to him...

Love him unconditionally - If you want your man to love you deeply and shower unconditional love on you, you've got to do the same to him. You must love him deeply and accept him completely. If you aren't happy that your man is not perfect as you wanted to be, let me tell you something. There's no perfect man on the planet. Everyone have their own flaws. So stop demanding him to be someone he isn't. Instead accept him and love him unconditionally.

Self-Love - Self-love is essential. If you want to be able to freely love your man unconditionally, you have to love yourself first. Stop hating yourself for who you are. Accept all the situations and problems in your life. Make your life more passionate by doing things worth living for. It will make you feel good. This will help you love yourself even more. As you love yourself, you will find your man showering unconditional love on you as well.

Talk and share things - If you want your man to love you deeply, you have to motivate him and talk to him on an emotional level. Most of the conversations we share are based on current events, work, friends, etc. Conversations like that are just purely boring. If you want to feel an amazing connection with your man, you've got to be talking about deeper subjects. Talk about his dreams, aspirations, wants. Listen to his problems. Allow him to share his life with you.

I Just Wanna Love You

You will have realized that as the guy in the relationship, you must do your very best to make her happy and satisfied. In order to do this, you must know what things to say to her that will make her happy. Indeed there are things that you can say tonight to her that will make her fall even deeper in love with you (sometimes may even get her addicted to you!). Remember that it does not matter whether you are still pursuing her or is already dating her for a couple of years - you must keep her happy always.

In the dark,
We can get touchy feely
I'ma make sure you feel me
Girl I can't wait to get us
In the dark,
This time can't be wasted
Girl I'm tryna taste it
Baby come and meet me
In the dark,
Don't be afraid when I touch you
I just wanna love you
We can get busy
In the dark,
It's time to get our grind on
Baby don't be shy no
All these things can happen
In the dark